Love and relationships are one of the biggest questions in a young person’s mind. Consider all that you have learned or experience in your life so far about love. Our society has very clear views on what love is, but what does God say? What do you think love or relationships are about?
So what did you come up with? Do you think of what you have see on TV, the movies, or what your friends say about it? Many times we see in our favorite shows that falling in love and dating are about compatibility, sex, and the “moment”. As Christians where do we start, and how do we avoid being flooded with social media’s version of love and dating?
Relationships need to start with the Creator of love and relationships. Yes, dating relationships should start with your relationship with God. Who else is going to know more about the opposite sex than the one who created them? When I was 21, I thought this was a crazy idea, but I can share with experience that it is worth to consider. Even if you have made mistakes, through the saving Grace of Jesus repent of your sins. So now you have to be thinking about how do I commit my relationship to God?
Surrendering doesn’t necessarily mean salvation, for if you have not accepted Jesus as your Savior then consider that commitment. You are missing out on an amazing relationship that is more fulfilling that the world’s ideals of love. Surrendering is not natural to humans. Surrendering is about letting God control your life. Taking a step into humility and allowing Him to guide you and your pursuits. We like to control every aspect of our lives (Sports, Love, Money, Work, and etc.). I am sure you are getting my drift?
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 (ESV)
We don’t think of an almighty God caring about our lives as a whole. We believe His only concern is about our spiritual existence, but remember that He is your father. He loves you so much that He sent His Son (Jesus Christ) to die for you, and Jesus died to save us because of our sin nature (John 3:16-17). There is no human relationship that can equal God’s love. I want you to take time to read the Gospels that focuses on Jesus death. I want you to consider reading it not as an assignment, but as a personal story to you.
Picture yourself watching this man, who knew no sin, who bares the cross on His back for your sin. Blood dripping from His face as He passes you by. You notice His eyes looking right at you, and a small smile appears on His face. He presses forward up to Calvary. You reach the top of the hill as the Roman soldiers pound the nails into Jesus hands and feet. The cross is lifted as you see the agony on Jesus’ face. He looks around at the crowd with a swollen face. You stare at this man with awe. He notices you again, smiles one last time, and you can hear a whisper in the wind, “this is for you…”
Can you feel the spirit bumps on your arms? His plan for the human race is about creating a relationship with people who have the will to love Him back. Therefore, what does this have to do about dating and romance? Relationships are about learning, building, and sacrificial love. Society dictates it’s about the moment, the desire, and the wanting. God is the creator of relationships, and He knows you better than you know yourself. Look at Scripture as a love letter, for words express a deep and passionate understanding about who God is as our Father. A relationship is about two people, and God has always been pursuing you. My question for you is do you pursue Him in return?
I challenge you to make the time to spend in His word, pray (and be silent), and surrender all the aspects of your life to Him. You must first, be a man or woman after His heart before He can offer you the heart of another person. Seek, Surrender, and Serve Him as the first step for a biblical relationship.